Massage and Valentines
Just wanted to say Happy Valentines, which is right around the corner and also got me thinking...
Do you know what your plans are for this year? The standard fare? Cards, flowers, chocolate, diamonds, etc.
Yeah, I am sure diamonds would be appreciated. But so would a lot of other things, especially anything requiring fore-thought and some effort.
And coming from a male perspective, I know men in general probably don't want diamonds for Valentines. Flowers? Doubtful. Chocolate? Might be a winner or a good start...
But what about something even deeper?
It would seem like what most people want deep down is to simply be acknowledged.
How's that??
Simple. Try ignoring them, especially while they are trying to talk to you. Turn your back on them. Walk out of the room, mid-sentence.. Hang up the cell phone while they are gabbing away and see what happens.
I bet you get a response from them. I would even bet it won't be pleasant.
But seriously, please don't do that. Although at many levels because we are so busy and so caught up in our day to day lives that can happen all too often at the unconscious level.
We spend a lot of our time ignornig each other. And if we are not careful, that can become habitual.
So what's the opposite of that?To pay attention to, fully. To be in the present moment with the person you love and be on the receiving end as much as on the giving end. Some people call that dance, Love.
A simple give and receive process of acknowledging one another and just being there for the other person and experiencing them without judgment.
To start, we can put aside ourselves and our agendas and our own desires temporarily and simply pay attention to the person in front of you and get curious as to who that special person truly is and how grateful you are to have them in your life...
I bet that would get you a different response vs. ignoring them. If you don't do that already...often enough.
Now some people are pretty stressed out these days. And getting and giving their full attention is not easy. But one of the fastest ways to short circuit stress is through simple touch.
As humans, we have the capacity to carry around so much tension and be totally oblivious to it until someone else is kind enough to touch us and help us remember that it's ok to let go and relax for a change. It's ok to feel in the moment.
With a simple touch, you can literally help the other person to relax more fully, which in turn helps them feel more and gives them the opportunity to stop functioning on habit and begin functioning in the moment or as close to it as is possible.
So there are all sorts of things and ideas to play around with for Valentines Day, or any other day for that matter. We're only limited by our imaginations...
Enjoy & Happy Valentines!
Robert
Do you know what your plans are for this year? The standard fare? Cards, flowers, chocolate, diamonds, etc.
Yeah, I am sure diamonds would be appreciated. But so would a lot of other things, especially anything requiring fore-thought and some effort.
And coming from a male perspective, I know men in general probably don't want diamonds for Valentines. Flowers? Doubtful. Chocolate? Might be a winner or a good start...
But what about something even deeper?
It would seem like what most people want deep down is to simply be acknowledged.
How's that??
Simple. Try ignoring them, especially while they are trying to talk to you. Turn your back on them. Walk out of the room, mid-sentence.. Hang up the cell phone while they are gabbing away and see what happens.
I bet you get a response from them. I would even bet it won't be pleasant.
But seriously, please don't do that. Although at many levels because we are so busy and so caught up in our day to day lives that can happen all too often at the unconscious level.
We spend a lot of our time ignornig each other. And if we are not careful, that can become habitual.
So what's the opposite of that?To pay attention to, fully. To be in the present moment with the person you love and be on the receiving end as much as on the giving end. Some people call that dance, Love.
A simple give and receive process of acknowledging one another and just being there for the other person and experiencing them without judgment.
To start, we can put aside ourselves and our agendas and our own desires temporarily and simply pay attention to the person in front of you and get curious as to who that special person truly is and how grateful you are to have them in your life...
I bet that would get you a different response vs. ignoring them. If you don't do that already...often enough.
Now some people are pretty stressed out these days. And getting and giving their full attention is not easy. But one of the fastest ways to short circuit stress is through simple touch.
As humans, we have the capacity to carry around so much tension and be totally oblivious to it until someone else is kind enough to touch us and help us remember that it's ok to let go and relax for a change. It's ok to feel in the moment.
With a simple touch, you can literally help the other person to relax more fully, which in turn helps them feel more and gives them the opportunity to stop functioning on habit and begin functioning in the moment or as close to it as is possible.
So there are all sorts of things and ideas to play around with for Valentines Day, or any other day for that matter. We're only limited by our imaginations...
Enjoy & Happy Valentines!
Robert
posted by Robert at 4:42 PM
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